OH MY FELLOW HUMANS..!!! WHAT CAN I DO FOR YOU..? READ THIS.!!! YOU REALISE THAT.!!!

OH! MY MOTHER! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR MILK,FOOD,CLOTHS,PROTECTION &LOVE IN NEED!
OH! MY FATHER! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR PROVIDING ME EDUCATION,GUIDANCE,ADVICE AS YOUNG!
OH MY SISTERS &BROTHER! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR AFFECTION,TRUE CRITISM &HAPPINESS!
OH MY WIFE! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR AFFECTION,CARE,PROTECTION,TOLERANCE&TASTY FOOD
OH MY CHILDREN! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR LAUGHTER,PROGRESS,AFFECTION & COURTECY!
OH MY UNCLES & AUNTS! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR ADVICE,LAUGHTER,FRIENDLINESS&SMILES!
OH MY FRIENDS &RELATIVES! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR JOKES,LAUGHTER,HOSPTALITY,SMILE!
OH MY POLITICAL,RELIGIOUS,SOCIAL,SPRITUAL,MENTORS!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR COURAGE!
OH MY VILLAGE! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR LOVELY NATURE,GREEN VIEWS & LOVELY TEMPLES!
OH MY JAFFNA! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR GREAT-HISTORY,EDUCATION,CULTURE&HOSPITALITY!
OH MY LANKA!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR NATURAL-BEAUTY,SEA,NICE FOOD & WARM CLIMATE!
OH MY NORWAY! HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME&MY FAMILY PROTECTION,SAFETY,LIFE& CARE!
OH MY WORLD!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR YOUR REGULAR DAY&NIGHT;SUMMER&WINTER CIRCLE SAFELY!
OH MY SUN!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR LIGHT/HEAT FOR ALL!NOT COME CLOSER OR GO FAR AWAY!
OH MY UNIVERSE!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR PROVIDING HARMONY!NOT DESTROYING LOVELY WORLD!
OH MY GOD!HOW CAN I THANK YOU FOR THIS LOVELY WORLD/UNIVERSE&MY HEART WORKING SO FAR!

SHAN NALLIAH...DRAMMEN, NORWAY 13-10-2011

The Hindu : Opinion / Open Page : The gamble called marriage

The Hindu : Opinion / Open Page : The gamble called marriage

Marry into a healthy family..........Towards a happy marriage..!!!

Marry into a healthy family

Towards a happy marriage

If you want a happily-ever-after ending to your love story ensure that a thorough health check is conducted not just on Mr/Miss Right, but their entire family too.

Two new studies have suggested that choosing relatives carefully is one way of protecting your heart from being broken. According to one study it was reported if an identical twin suffered from melanoma, this increased the risk of the other twin developing the skin cancer at a later stage.

Yes, if your partner’s blood relation is suffering from a disease that can be hereditary, your husband/wife or child too could get it at a later stage in life. This holds true to many ailments like heart problems, various kinds of cancer, cystic fibrosis, muscular dystrophy and more. Character traits, finances and others habits can be changed and corrected, but not some deadly genes.

After 15 years of marriage it would be terrible to be told that your spouse or child is suffering from a hereditary disease that he/she inherited from a grandparent. Sometimes, even a parent who is healthy can be a carrier. It might sound selfish but for long-term happiness it’s worth checking out the family’s medical history.

You don’t want things like a history of mental issues to be brought to your knowledge only after you discover your sister-in-law behaving a bit crazy. These genes haunt generations and your child could be vulnerable to them.

Things like baldness can be ignored unless you are an extremely vain creature, but be attentive to other serious issues. When conducting a health check look out for things like whether the disease is recessive or dominant, senior scientist and geneticist, Centre for Cellular and Molecular Biology, Hyderabad, Dr. K. Thangaraj says.

“The chances are 50 percent if the genes causing the disease are dominant. If recessive they are 25 percent.”And with certain genes, grandchildren are the ones who suffer them. Also keep an eye out for unhealthy relatives as Dr. K. Thangaraj says, “Since Y chromosome is inherited by males, all the male members in the lineage inherit it. In case of maternal lineage, the mitochondrial RNA is inherited.” The road to true love is never said to be smooth, but it can surely be a healthy one.

If you have any doubts or your partner needs to sort out some issues senior geneticist, Centre for Liver Research and Diagnostics, Hyderabad Dr. M. N. Khaja recommends genetic counselling. He feels this must be encouraged before marriage. This way both parties will get into the relationship with their eyes wide open and can monitor children and get them tested from when they are born for certain symptoms. Ignoring or working around a loved one’s flaws is no big deal, but overlooking their rouge gene could be deadly in the long run.

- Deccan Chronicle

FOR NEWLY MARRIED COUPLES.......!!!

For my newly married friends

By Sirohmi Gunesekera

Wish me luck as I wave you goodbye, Here we go on our way…"

The confetti was thrown on the happy couple as they held hands and walked out into the sunshine.

Marriage is a milestone in life and most couples marry expecting to live happily ever after. This is because most people have grown up with the fairy tale unconsciously colouring their lives.

But be careful. Living with another person, especially one of the opposite sex, can be very difficult. He has been brought up one way and you another. Maybe he is used to throwing his shirt and towel just about anywhere while you are neat and tidy to a fault. You may end up crying because your feelings are easily hurt.

At the beginning, expectations are high and there is the intimacy of sex one feel oh so special.

Most Sri Lankan couples have not lived with others before they marry. Never mind the past. Try not to carry hangovers from the past into the present.

But apart from sex, living together and sharing are a whole different ballgame.

"Start as you mean to go on" And share household chores. If you are lucky, find a place of your own where both of you can start life together.

Money is a major problem and it is good to have a proper attitude towards it. Money is required and it is good to have a healthy respect for it but always always remember that the best things in life are free. For instance, if anything happens to your loved one, do you think that any amount of money can compensate? But it is important to try and save money for a rainy day.

If both of you enjoy each other’s company, you don’t have to spend a lot of money on dining in fancy restaurants or going shopping. Today, the world is geared to getting people to spend money to make up for the lack of love in their lives. So if you have love, the sky’s the limit as you enjoy Nature and each other.

Cooking noodles together can help build a memory and is better than buying a packet of rice. DO NOT divide work into Men’s Work and Women’s Work. Share whatever you can and you will find that even taking out the trash can be the occasion for a tender word and a hug afterwards.

Don’t be in a hurry to have a baby because that means responsibilities. If the two of you share a room, now is the time to lock up your room and go on a day trip to Kandy with your camera. Build memories of loving looks and warm hugs as the two of you trek into the hills.

Wake up early and hug each other in the dawn, giving thanks for a brand new day. If both are working, prepare yourself for a day apart and still try to give at least a call during the day.

Evening comes and you sit out in the moonlight and hold hands while counting the stars as they twinkle into being in the night sky. Relax, you can have a late dinner.

Being Newly Married is a very special time of life and enjoy every moment of it for it won’t come again.
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LOVE AND LET LOVE!!!

Love at the Back Seat of a bus
Shaz, Ruwi and Sachi

One fine afternoon, V3 find themselves in the back seat of the bus which is quite a ‘happening’ place to be especially for couples.

“Why is the back seat of the bus always promptly taken by lovers?” asks Shaz.

Sachi ponders and replies, “It’s the fact that rooms and cinema halls can be expensive with the current cost of living”.

“It is the most private space in a public place for lovers to congregate” says Ruwi.

However, in Sri Lanka, public display of affection, better known as PDA is looked down upon and many have different views on it.

“If you want to love, then it should be in a very private place, the back seat of a bus is rather public as anyone can see it if they look” says Ruwi.

Sachi comes up with a different point, “I think that people should tolerate love because is the essence of life but one thing can always lead to another”.

Well, the one thing leading to another is a rather controversial topic to debate and V3 had their ideas on love as well.

“In fact, most of the first experiences of love are in a bus, especially for students where the flame is sparked by a gentle touch of a bus handlebar or even a simple smile in a crowd” says Shaz.

“That is true and you shouldn’t deprive yourself of loving otherwise you will get frustrated” comments Sachi.

Ruwi agrees, “I believe that there should be love but there is a way you can show your lover how you feel”.

“I think too much of public display ruins the true essence of love because some fake it on the outside whereas inside they feel totally different” says Shaz.

However, getting back to the topic of backseat bus love, Sachi contemplates about how this one thing leading to another can be quite a difficult thing.

“In cinema halls, you get the box seats made especially for lovers so that they can make out but in buses it can be rather difficult unless a couple is travelling in an inter-city bus at night with the lights dimmed” says Sachi.

Ruwi has a different reaction, “But how can you behave in a loving manner when you’re travelling in public or even private transport, you are bound to get caught”.

“Nowadays there are many gays and lesbians also adopting the same technique as heterosexual couples and many onlookers more often than not prevent it” says Sachi.

“I notice that most don’t care about what people do in the backseat of the bus because everyone knows whoever sits there will be upto mischief” says Ruwi.

The trend is changing and more people are becoming open-minded.”Just look at the umbrellas at Galle Face Green - nobody chases those lovers away even though it might be close to the Presidential Secretariat but at Vihara Maha Devi Park, the police do not allow couples to congregate” says Sachi.

“That is because Sathutu Uyana is a children’s park and you shouldn’t corrupt them but still every park has children playing, even Parliament grounds” says Shaz.

“Yes, you do get special parks for lovers but then again, love is everywhere - you can’t stop it!” exclaims Ruwi.

It’s one of those complicated issues where you can’t live without love but you can’t understand it either. “On the topic of backseat love, many onlookers see a couple loving and they see it in a vulgar way” says Shaz.

“Yes, sometimes it can be for satisfaction only, rather than love” says Ruwi who is rather skeptical as public display of affection doesn’t mean true love.

Sachi says, “It depends on the couple - if they don’t have a problem with it, then others shouldn’t either”.

“Oh! This love topic, you can’t analyse it and say that this is how you love at the backseat of a bus, I mean some couples would prefer to hold hands and others can take it in the wrong sense” says Shaz.

“Yes, the best people who have a nice view of couples are the drivers of the vehicles behind the bus, especially other bus drivers” says Sachi with a wink.

Anyway you can’t live without love and couples at the back seat of the bus always add spice to a long and monotonous journey.

“I think that looking at a couple (not in a bad way) actually puts a smile on your face because it reminds of you of how you used to love and maybe about your lover if you are not with them” says Shaz.

Ruwi agrees and Sachi a point, “If you can’t beat them, join them!” “Gosh! Hope you didn’t mean joining them, joining them” giggles Shaz.

Ruwi looks rather knowingly and goes,

“What did you have in mind Sachi?” “Er..No, I meant you should go on the backseat of the bus with your lover and see how it’s like in the hotseat of the back seat” Sachi explains. V3 believes in the ‘Love and Let Love’ theory - do you?

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10 GOOD REASONS TO MARRY YOU!!!

10 Good reasons why I would marry you

and one why I wouldn’t

Introduction and background.

Well, I know its not lady like to suggest marriage, or to propose it to a guy, but then you always did know that I’m not much of a lady and have never been ( Im plain hairy and I cant be bothered with waxing. I mean, give me one good reason I should hurt my skin to be more acceptable to the opposite sex.)

Further- when I say "marry " I don’t really mean the whole lace and bouquets and flower-girls rigmarole, and signing silly documents which have no real substance. In fact it has never failed to amaze me that the marriage contract is the only paper humans continue to sign which has absolutely no explicit terms, heck even my three month room rental is clearer on what responsibilities and benefits are but this signing on a dotted line with nothing else near it, its plain dumb if you ask me! Particularly when there are no real ways to enforce it .

And then just look at the disservice you do to society, inviting hundreds of people, making them waste lots of time preparing, shopping for tuxedos or matching sari blouse material and out fits for the kids who can only wear it one day anyway- they all have to come to a dead boring hotel lunch (and the more expensive the hotel the more confusing the food tastes), listen to deafening music , and throw confetti at the couple, only to be told about three years down the line that it didn’t work out and all that time they wasted was REALLY useless- simply gross; I have been there, done that and all I can remember was that the hem of my sari was getting tangled in my high heels, which was horribly nerve wracking. Not to mention having to kiss hundreds of painted perfumed sweaty women I don’t know. Bleah.

No I don’t really mean that, nice and fairy tale thought it sounds.

What I actually mean is that I would like to be officially, your partner in crime.

Justification
Now to substantiate my proposal, I have a couple of good old fashioned and ancient "wise sayings" on my side:

1. Do not marry a person you can live with; Marry someone you cannot live without.".
( I guess that means , someone you just cant bear to be separate from and will never forget as long as you live; if so that would be you)

2. Marry someone you like talking to
(which probably means when all those hormones fade and sex becomes repetitious and dead boring you will still be able to keep each other entertained. Makes sense.)

3. Truly great friends are hard to find, difficult to leave, and impossible to forget

Im just suggesting that we could make each other smile, we could be there for each other and we could possibly make life happier for each other. Nothing more complicated.

Detailed justification
I’ve also backing this up with ten good reasons why I think I can actually stand knowing you , so as you see I have done my background work quite thoroughly.

1. You keep smiling most of the time


2. You are kind to animals


3. You talk about my children. and yours; a lot.


4. You’re funny and you make me smile.


5. You’re not insanely jealous when I talk about other cute guys and old flames.


6. You read what I write (possibly more than anyone else does except my mother)


7. I’m comfortable with you even when we don’t talk.


8. You’re talented and you know what you’re doing


9. Youre quaintly old fashioned although you deny it.


10. You’re spiritual although you try to hide it.


11. You drive decently even when you’re angry.


12. You read. Let me reiterate here, its not easy to find a bloke who reads beyond car magazines, sports highlights and the stock market news. But you read Tintin…


13. You are romantic although you try not to show it. Odd, but I have noticed.


14. You talk about your old flames in a nice way without resenting them.


15. You smell good and you’re cuddly and huggable.


16. You have the best communications skills I have ever seen in almost any guy.


17. You like the same books, music , movies and entertainment crap that I do


18. You don’t pee on the roadside or walk about shirtless, scratching your chest or worse. Even though you’re Sri Lankan!!


19. You sound sexy in the dark. Seriously, ok in daylight too - you have a wonderful way of talking.


20.And finally you’re hygienic; and did I go beyond the ten reasons? I do apologize.

Perceived risks
We allow that there are the challenges involved in knowing you so I have weighed them against the pros.

1. You like arguing and you keep grudges for yonks!

2. You don’t show that you love the ones you’re with which I think is immature.

3. You’re bigoted, racist and very rude to some people.

4. You’re a show off, a down right shocking exhibitionist, and snob! Sometimes that gets tedious for anyone near you.

5. You’re plain unstable, as you yourself admit.

6. When you hurt someone, you hurt them very, very bad.

Finally the number one reason I think I should go and boil my head for even suggesting such a thing…

7. Sometimes getting involved is the best way to lose someone

Conclusion
Weighing everything, and notwithstanding my obvious inability to count properly, I somehow think things won’t be that bad. I would actually love to grow old talking with you, to wake up to your hugs, to fall asleep to your snores, to save you from nightmares, and save myself from loneliness, and no this is not something I thought up on the spur of the moment, is it? I have had years to love you, years to hate you, a month to forgive you and perhaps, perhaps just maybe a life time to endure you, which I gladly will either way.

So what will it be?
Authors Note: The author currently makes a living writing project proposals for third sector organizations. This is her first attempt at writing a personal proposal and – hopefully, for everyone’s sake, her last.
(courtesy:dailymirror)

ASIA:FAMILY VALUES! CULTURAL/TRADITIONAL VALUES...RUINING!!!

India’s New ‘Call Girls’........P Jayaram in New Delhi
The Straits Times/aANN Conservatives decry ‘life of sin’ at call centres but employees say it’s a myth

Is economic independence making the young men and women working at India’s mushrooming call centres promiscuous? Has the graveyard shift become a licence for a ‘life of sin’?

Conservatives, particularly in IT hubs like Bangalore, Hyderabad or Gurgaon, say ‘yes’. But others say the so-called promiscuity in call centres is just a reflection of the sexual revolution happening in society.

The devil-may-care lifestyle of the young call centre employees is becoming folklore, and writers, Bollywood and TV commercials are reflecting it.

But call centre employees themselves say reports of their libidinous activities are a myth created by a Western media hurt by job losses in its countries.

Srilekha Bhattacharya, 27, who works in the sales section of the call centre of a multinational company in Delhi, says their high-pressure jobs leave them little time for anything else.

"We have daily and monthly targets to achieve. This is a high-pressure job and there is a strict code of conduct for the employees," she told The Straits Times.

"We even have a dress code. Revealing and indecent dresses are out."

And Neelam Singh, who works as a senior group leader at a business process outsourcing centre, or call centre, of a leading Indian company here, said: "The so-called promiscuity among call centre employees is a popular myth."

Her male colleague Sameer Behl chips in: "What’s popularly believed to be happening in the call centres, if at all true, is nothing more or different from what’s happening in society.

"The floors are monitored by CCTV. There is 24-hour monitoring and employees are not allowed to take in their personal belongings, including mobile phones."

But at the same time, there have been persistent reports about the drains of a call centre being clogged with condoms and women workers carrying contraceptives to their graveyard shifts.

And with an estimated 1.3 million people working in call centres across the country, an announcement by the Andhra Pradesh AIDS Control Society earlier this month that state authorities had asked all call centres to install condom vending machines has further fuelled rumours about these ‘places of sin’.

The move follows AIDS expert Suniti Solomon’s claim that a new epidemic is looming in India’s call centres, where she said young staff are increasingly having unprotected sex with multiple partners during night shifts.

She said at least three or four call centre workers visit the AIDS centre she runs in Chennai every week to get tested for HIV after having unprotected sex.

India has the third-highest number of HIV cases—2.4 million—after South Africa and Nigeria.

There are no figures of call centre workers infected with HIV, but a survey of them last year found that 38 per cent believed premarital sex was morally acceptable and a quarter regularly had casual sex.

Adding to conservative India’s outrage is the alleged public behaviour of call centre employees, particularly female workers.

Meenakshi Iyer, a 46-year-old Bangalore mother of two teenage girls, told The Straits Times: "I feel embarrassed to take my girls to restaurants frequented by them. They dress indecently, smoke and drink.

"Many of them come from semi-rural backgrounds. Good salaries and the freedom of living alone in the city make them lose their balance."

It is unclear whether women working in call centres drink more heavily than the average woman, but these days, they are certainly not unique in visiting bars.

Just a few years ago, it was only the vamp in the Bollywood films who drank.

Today, tipsy women tottering out of pubs on high heels are a common sight, as women, encroaching on traditional male territory in the workplace, pick up the traditional male habit of winding down with a drink after work.

As 29-year-old Neelam Mann, a project manager and self-confessed pub crawler, put it: "I love dancing when I’m drinking. Drinking makes me happy, chatty and uninhibited."

But the change in women’s lifestyles appears to be having an increasingly negative impact on their health.

Mukta Puntambekar, project director of the Muktangan De-addiction Centre in Mumbai, said women hardly came to the centre for treatment two years ago.

"Now we treat four to five cases a month," she said. "The number of inquiries from female addicts has gone up to 20 to 22 per month."

Meanwhile, the carefree life of the call centre workers, mostly fresh out of universities and earning a starting salary of 20,000 rupees to 25,000 rupees (US$402 to $502)—more than what a government doctor or university teacher makes—has raised conservative hackles for other reasons too.

Dr CNR Rao, one of India’s leading scientists, said IT had turned his native Bangalore into an ‘awful city’.

Comparing the call centre employees to "coolies who work for wages but do not produce great intellectual material", he said they are wasting their potential.

Writing in Outlook magazine last year, he lamented: "There was more poetry and music here before the IT boom."

He added: "If IT is going to take away our basic values, then you can burn Bangalore and burn IT."

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